Because modesty is one of the facets of purity, we thought that an article on it would fit perfectly into our “Pure Heart” week. As Amy Vest emphasized at the conference (read our recap here),it truly is a matter of the heart. Please don’t think of this topic as a list of rules, but as a pointer to Christ.
What is Modesty? Modesty makes a conscious choice to be a representative for Christ in the area of dress. Instead of advertising for Hollister, your Volleyball team, or your body, you are making a point of “advertising” the gospel as it plays out in feminine beauty. If you look at yourself in the mirror and see a provocative, flirtatious, or worldly reflection, you are not dressing for Jesus—you are dressing for attention. If you look at yourself in the mirror and see a self-righteous, judgmental, legalistic reflection, you are not dressing for Jesus—you are dressing for praise. If you look in the mirror and choose to accept your body, protect its preciousness, and draw attention to your pure heart, you are dressing for Jesus—and supporting your brothers-in-Christ.
The Six Heart Questions
What is my motivation for wearing this?
Where are eyes drawn?
Can I be modest in every situation?
Is it too tight or revealing?
Is the way I am dressing a good representation of Jesus?
Is it honoring to God?
Post this list on your closet door, your bathroom mirror, or any place where you will see it regularly. Intentionally answer each question—even though it may be tough!
Our outward appearance is naturally important to us, and the culture certainly doesn’t make it any easier for us to fight the battle of purity. The issue is not beauty, clothes, or make-up; the issue is love. We suddenly find that our love for God isn’t as dynamic or thrilling as going shopping for a new outfit. We would rather talk to our friends at church than talk to God. When your love for God overflows into every area of your life, you will begin to dress in obedience and love for Christ!
If your heart is not in the right place it is so easy to get caught up in dressing and looking for attention from guys. Living in modesty and purity is a much better place for your heart to be! When you are live for the attention you receive from others, your relationship with Christ suffers. Use temptations and thoughts as a springboard for prayer – this will build up your godly thought-life instead of your romantic thought-life.
Looking for the Heart
Another thing Amy talked about was how whenever she sees a heart she lets it remind her of Christ’s love for her. After she started thinking about it that way, she began seeing hearts every where, in her food, on the sidewalk, in her room. God was really showing her how much he loved her! He loves you to!! Set your mind on falling in love with him. Think of something that reminds you of God’s love and look around you it may just start appearing .